I titled this “nothing I haven’t seen” but in my head I’m writing “nothing I never see for that gender hand”.

One Sunday morning in march, I think first Sunday in march, I was heading to church and this car which I later got to know as bolt asked for directions, he wasn’t clear enough so I gave directions based on what he said, walking down my street and heading to church he drove down to where I was and asked for another direction, he was on a call and I over heard what the caller was saying and told him oh yeah I know there but!, I’m late so you will take me half my way to church. I took him there and he picked them and he went to drop them and also offered to take me to church, I was already late and I was not going to decline. On our way going, he asked for my contact and I felt it’s only right to give him since he was already driving me to church right?, while he was driving he kept saying his mother has been calling him bla bla bla. Of course he smelt like who didn’t sleep at home and who had fun the Provo us night, when I was about to save my contact I saw a contact saved as “my wife” that has called and non of “mommy or mother”. Uhmmmmm I just typed my number and left it there he took me to church and I told him thank you.
He started calling and saying many things and I just went straight to the sir you are married can you just stop this and I don’t have energy. There was nothing he didn’t say, he denies that contact I saw, said a lot of things. I long realized many people just like to talk and I learnt how to mentally check out and leave that person there. That was exactly what I did. I would take his calls if I felt like and reply any message I felt like replying. I noticed he only chats at night or mornings from 8am, did I talk hell no, I just left everything like that.

On this fateful morning, I woke up to several messages from his wife. I read them, sent reactions and left it like that. Days later this man reached out and sounded like nothing happened and I did likewise too, said he wanted to see me (note;- I never honored any I want to see you after the day he drove me to church), I gave him my normal excuse but later in the day he called that he was in my hood I just said, let it just be handled, meanwhile I had already blocked the contact On WhatsApp so he was contacting via normal call. I went outside to meet him and then I told him the chats I saw, I never shared it I just held my phone and showed him (in my head i won’t be the cause of you and your wife disagreement). He started saying a lot, called her a random girl that cannot respect her self haaaaaa mennnnnnn, was saying I should know how we women are, I was just looking at him and asking please how are we?. He went on and on and on. I just told him you can keep saying whatever you want but all I can say is for anybody to pick up anybody’s phone there is a form of relationship that’s deep and he should go sort himself out. He kept talking and lying and I mentally checked out and just sat there my attention only came back when he said “tell me anything you want me to do to fix this and I will fix it” I just replied “get the fuck outta my hood and never come back for your own good” he looked at me with shock and I said yes I mean it. For the fact I’m a church girl you should really have been afraid and feared God and avoided me. Do you think I’m stupid, do I look I stupid to you?. I just left the place. Good radiance.

Do men think women don’t have a mind of their own?. It took me time to want to write this because when I think of it, it irks me. What never happened in my 20s it’s in my 30s that son of man wants me to chop insult ontop his shitty life.

This is my march dump. Truly, I’m tired of having different specimens every month. Can’t I just meet a beautiful specimen and have a sweet story to want to drop here?

Well it is what it is, until I come again next time with a beautiful story.